Family... is my answer.
And when is it ok to completely disconnect from your adult children who have extinguished you, their Father from their lives so you can move forward and live the remaining time left in your life free from guilt, shame, remorse?
You've done everything possible to remain in contact with them but they push you away. You've tried everything. They do not give you their address. They have disconnected their phones. They have strung you along. They have toyed with you. Milked you for money. Stolen from you. Been ungrateful. Misrepresented themselves towards you. Slandered you. Lied to you. Laughed at you. Threatened your life while under the influence of hallucinogenic mushrooms with a planned defence of being not criminally responsible. No phone calls. No replies. Nothing at Christmas. Nothing at New Years. Nothing on Family Day. Nothing on your birthday. They want nothing from you on their birthdays. No summer vacations. No evening visits. No stay overs. No weekends. No projects. Nothing on Thanksgiving. No shared good or bad news. Notta. You know you're sad, you're depressed and paralyzed.
You've prayed. You've forgiven. You stay up at night. First thing when you wake you're muttering to yourself about how classless they are. Your dreams of Fatherhood, Grand-fatherhood - poof, gone. They are 35 and 32.
It's been 25 years. How to let go?
Easy. Forgive them. Forgive yourself.
Remove them as beneficiaries from your investment portfolio.
Don't be a sucker and sad anymore.
You sent them a text on New Years day 2025 because,
you're a responsible and loving the parent.
No reply.
Problem, Problem, Whose Got The Problem.
They do. They wouldn't give a fuck if you died.
Did you try your best? Yes.
So now... let go, and let God.
Move on.
Ok, I will.
(bury the bodies, don't exhume them)
now go to sleep, be at peace, free yourself from 25 years of your own prison
and go live your best life.
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